Giving Love Lessons To Your Girl
Recently there has been a lot of talk about how lousy we Indian men are in bed. Women have been criticising everything from our technique to our stamina and have just stopped short of criticising our errr….girth.
I even recently read an article about how Indian men are literally pushing their women into lesbianism. That’s harsh criticism by any means.
Well, agreed we do improve a lot in these areas and thanks to excellent educative sites like MensXpert, one can hope that we would soon be able to raise our game to match that of the French and the Americans. But complaining about something so sensitive like sex, will raise a number of questions, one of which is strongly related to the performance of our women in the bedroom. Though there are several of those who are absolute dynamites in bed, but for each dynamite there are several more who can drive a man to tears – and not in a good way. The point is that sex is an equal partnership and both men and woman can teach each other a number of things that would enable them perform better in bed.
So as a man if you too are frustrated with your woman sexually here are a few Xpert tips to help you constructively correct your woman in bed.
Well, agreed we do improve a lot in these areas and thanks to excellent educative sites like MensXpert, one can hope that we would soon be able to raise our game to match that of the French and the Americans. But complaining about something so sensitive like sex, will raise a number of questions, one of which is strongly related to the performance of our women in the bedroom. Though there are several of those who are absolute dynamites in bed, but for each dynamite there are several more who can drive a man to tears – and not in a good way. The point is that sex is an equal partnership and both men and woman can teach each other a number of things that would enable them perform better in bed.
So as a man if you too are frustrated with your woman sexually here are a few Xpert tips to help you constructively correct your woman in bed.
She plays dead
I have spoken to so many embittered men who are disenchanted with their sex lives because their women are completely unresponsive in the bedroom. It’s as if her body is there but she isn’t. Such women just lie there, unmoving and unresponsive, waiting to be penetrated. How can you be expected to have fun if you have to do all the work?
Solution: If your woman is tense and unresponsive, then something is seriously wrong. But such things can easily be fixed through open and honest communication. Ask her why she becomes so nervous in the bedroom. Is there something that she’s uncomfortable with? Get her to talk about the things that she would like you to do to her in bed. Perhaps she would like you to invest more time in the foreplay, or would like you pleasure her orally before penetrating her. Be open to her suggestions. If you are an attentive lover, your efforts in bed would gradually turn her into a more proactive partner.
If she tells you that she just likes to enjoy your attentions, then you can get her to participate in the sex by putting her in a commanding position. If you have always made love to her in just the missionary position, make her get on top and experiment with some of the women on top positions. My personal recommendation is the Asian cowgirl.
Solution: If your woman is tense and unresponsive, then something is seriously wrong. But such things can easily be fixed through open and honest communication. Ask her why she becomes so nervous in the bedroom. Is there something that she’s uncomfortable with? Get her to talk about the things that she would like you to do to her in bed. Perhaps she would like you to invest more time in the foreplay, or would like you pleasure her orally before penetrating her. Be open to her suggestions. If you are an attentive lover, your efforts in bed would gradually turn her into a more proactive partner.
If she tells you that she just likes to enjoy your attentions, then you can get her to participate in the sex by putting her in a commanding position. If you have always made love to her in just the missionary position, make her get on top and experiment with some of the women on top positions. My personal recommendation is the Asian cowgirl.
When you hand your woman the reigns of sex, and get her to control the speed and intensity of the thrusts, she will automatically become more responsive.
She is a selfish lover
Now this something similar to situation mentioned above, though not completely. A selfish lover is someone who is wholly and only concerned about her own pleasure but refuses to make any effort to pleasure her partner. Unlike girls who become tense or nervous during sex, selfish lovers are confident about their bodies and are capable of experiencing an orgasm. The problem is that they refuse to do anything to return the favour.
Solution: If you too are suffering from a serious case of “stingy woman” then you have to understand the reasons of her selfishness before you talk to her. Selfish woman tend to suffer from a “princess ideal” of what sex is to men. They believe that men being men don’t need any help during sex. They can get themselves up for sex at the drop of a hat, while women have to be coaxed, cajoled, cuddled and loved to be prepared for sex. However, you, I and a zillion other men from around the world will testify that this is certainly not the case. Most men (not boys of 16) need as much inspiration from their woman, to enjoy sex. And yes, this includes girly things like cuddling, kissing, rubbing, touching etc.
Now that you have clearly understood the situation, go and communicate this fact to your woman. If she buys into your argument, she will soon become more proactive in bed. If this doesn’t work then don’t pleasure her till she agrees to do the same to you. Period!
Solution: If you too are suffering from a serious case of “stingy woman” then you have to understand the reasons of her selfishness before you talk to her. Selfish woman tend to suffer from a “princess ideal” of what sex is to men. They believe that men being men don’t need any help during sex. They can get themselves up for sex at the drop of a hat, while women have to be coaxed, cajoled, cuddled and loved to be prepared for sex. However, you, I and a zillion other men from around the world will testify that this is certainly not the case. Most men (not boys of 16) need as much inspiration from their woman, to enjoy sex. And yes, this includes girly things like cuddling, kissing, rubbing, touching etc.
Now that you have clearly understood the situation, go and communicate this fact to your woman. If she buys into your argument, she will soon become more proactive in bed. If this doesn’t work then don’t pleasure her till she agrees to do the same to you. Period!
She gives painful head
You finally managed to convince your woman to go down on you, but instead of sending you to the promised land of absolute pleasure her oral antics make you wither in pain. Her teeth scrape against your dick head and her ultra strong vacuum cleaner like suction almost makes you cry out in pain.
Solution: Again, I would recommend clear and crisp communication as a way to solve the problem. If you are the first guy she has given head to, then you cant expect her to know what you dislike unless you tell her. So the next time she starts blowing you, try not to make sudden jerks and clearly describe exactly how you want it to be done.
Solution: Again, I would recommend clear and crisp communication as a way to solve the problem. If you are the first guy she has given head to, then you cant expect her to know what you dislike unless you tell her. So the next time she starts blowing you, try not to make sudden jerks and clearly describe exactly how you want it to be done.
Tell her about the various different things she can do, like playing with your boys. Moreover, never forget to verbalise your appreciation without words. This will only increase her confidence and help her improve her performance.
She’s a poor kisser
Some women are such good kissers that they can make you cum without laying a finger on your boner and there are some who are so bad that you would do anything than get kissed by them. I was once seeing a girl who insisted on sticking her tongue so deep down my throat that I could feel my tonsils being tickled. And then I also had the misfortune of making out with a girl who believed in keeping her lips tightly sealed, every time we kissed. No tongue what so ever.
Solution: How do you correct a bad kisser? I you feel that your kissing skills are up to the mark, then ask yourself what you desire from your girl.
Solution: How do you correct a bad kisser? I you feel that your kissing skills are up to the mark, then ask yourself what you desire from your girl.
If you want it to be gentle and slow then lead by example. Turn the lesson into a game. Ask her to stay still and kiss her like the way you would like to be kissed. Then get her to kiss you, the way she enjoys being kissed. Keep it light and fun and she will soon improve.
So one of the best ways of improving your woman’s performance in the bedroom is to communicate your needs and desires to her in clear unambiguous terms. Teach her to be a more exciting, adventurous partner by talking to her and down to her and she will feel encouraged to improve herself.
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